It’s easy to look at a lot of couples and admire their relationship. It can be grandparents, parents, neighbours, or any long-term married couple that is living in utter bliss. The reality is that as times have evolved, the dating world has evolved with it, and separation and divorce rates have exponentially increased since the time our grandparents were dating.
Anyone entering a committed and loving relationship, wants it to work out and last for as long as possible. People are seeking nourishing and healthy bonds that build each other up and provide the affection and support needed for it to be a happy and satisfying relationship.
Healthy relationships are important as well as highly desired. Unhealthy relationships can lead to resentment, a toxic environment, and really emotionally drain individuals. But fear not, as we will let you in on a few golden secrets that will allow you to have that desperately sought out healthy relationship everyone is after.
Relationships take work
Well, good and healthy relationships are. It’s easy to get complacent and lazy in a relationship, especially if you’ve been in it for a long time. Relationships can start to feel complacent and just the norm in your life. It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking your partner and the relationship for granted.
That’s why it’s important to put work into the relationship and remind your partner, as well as yourself, how grateful you are for being in a relationship. I’m not talking about extravagant, break the bank gestures here, it’s the little things that make all the difference. From organising a spontaneous date night to cleaning the dishes or a simple “I love you text”.
There are so many little gestures that can become the new norm in your relationship, whilst keeping it happy and healthy.
Use your words more
One of the biggest stumbling blocks in relationships is healthy conflict resolution. Arguments are blown out of proportion and disagreements are left to fester because we simply don’t address them properly.
Humans are stubborn by nature. This is amplified in a relationship, especially when trying to defend themselves in an argument. A lot of us may resort to shouting, swearing, and screaming at each other – especially in the heat of the moment.
Calmly using our words and discussing issues, before it gets to the argument stage is key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Stop bottling things up, or brushing problems under the carpet. Talk things out and communicate effectively with your partner in a loving and trusting way.
Remember to have fun!
This can be easy to forget with the stress and busyness of everyday life. But don’t forget to have fun with your partner and enjoy your time together as much as you can.
Go on exciting adventures and trips, take up hobbies together, and make great memories. Relationships are about sharing life’s best moments with someone you love and cherish, what better person than your significant other and best friend.
This keeps the bond between you both exciting and fun and is a sure way to keep any negative energy away from your relationship.