Be it our grandfather who passed away of old age or a friend who was killed in a car accident, we will experience the loss of a loved one at one time or another. For some people, this can be a devastating experience that is difficult to overcome. Losing a loved one can change you, and oftentimes not for the better.
Depression and anger are common feelings when family or friends pass away. This can lead to unhealthy behaviors or just general lethargy towards life. Here are some steps to take to help you cope with the death of a loved one, and hopefully become a better person from it.
1. Accept the loss. Many people are in denial when a devastating thing such as a death of a family member happens. They have all these unanswered questions and can easily become depressed. The first step is to always accept the situation. Everybody will face the pain of loss at some point in life. Death is inevitable, and the sooner we accept that the sooner you can get closer to successfully adapt to the new situation
2. It’s okay to show pain. If you’re the type of person who rarely cries but you feel like crying when you hear about the death of your friend, it’s ok to go ahead and let it out. It’s actually a very healthy behavior, as our body needs to let out the pain in some way. Everyone has a different way, be it crying, punching a pillow or just screaming as loud as you can. Keeping your grief bottled up inside will never allow you to recover.
3. Talk to someone. We never want to be alone with intense feelings such as these, so it is very helpful to talk with someone about how you’re feeling. Even if you have trouble putting it into words, just having someone listen and sympathize with you can make all the difference in the world.
4. Don’t dwell on the past. The natural reaction to hearing about someone dying is if you could have done anything to help. This is dangerous thinking, because many times there was nothing to be done. We may also wish we could have said goodbye to the person but things like that don’t matter. What matters is that you honor their memory by becoming a better person. Talk to their family members and see if you can help out in some way. It is very important to always look forward.
5. Remember the happy moments. People often times remember the last sad moments of a person’s life and focus on that. It is healthy and much more beneficial to remember the happy times you experienced. Focusing on the good times will make you happy and will keep their memory alive and well.
6. Get out of the house. Many people tend to stay inside when they experience death in the family. This is fine initially, but make an effort to go outside when there is a nice day. Being outside in the sun and fresh air will help rejuvenate your spirit and keep you focused on the positive.
7. Give yourself time. Last but not least, it’s very important to remember that the healing process from grief is not a quick one. In some cases it can take a few years to fully recover. Just take it day by day and try to improve how you feel. You will find over time the loss will be replaced by positive memories that can continue to serve as happy reminders.
Author Bio: Johan Olers is a resident writer for vidmate apk