Divorces are often complicated and it is not the least surprising that there are far too many myths and false assumptions surrounding the whole process. Many people have very strong opinions about what a divorce process should look like. Many a time, these opinions are formed as a result of personal experiences or advice of others. The internet and social media also seldom helps matters by fueling many misconceptions about divorce. The problem is that these misconceptions are so universal that divorce attorneys have to spend considerable time helping their clients understand how the process really works. Read on to find some of the most common mistaken beliefs about divorce
Divorce attorneys make things worse so aren’t needed
This is one very common misconception that could end up being the costliest. Often times, people going through a divorce think that just because they are on good terms with their spouses, the entire divorce process will forever remain harmonious. It isn’t always true. Along this line, it is almost inevitable that things will get feisty. The processes involved in ending a marriage are complicated and as such it is important to have someone who understands how the process works and who will rise up to ensure that your rights are protected and viewpoint represented
Divorces are always a legal battle
True, some divorces end up being very contentious; yet today, there exists so many alternatives and methods that allow a marriage to be dissolved in a very respectful and civilized manner. There isn’t always the need to battle it out in court. At the end of the day, through mediation and collaborative law, agreements can be reached between parties without them ever seeing the inside of a courtroom.
Mothers always get custody
What makes this myth hard to eliminate is the fact that it was once a reality. At a point in time, judges held firm to the belief that it was in the best interest of children to live with their mother. This is as a result of mothers conventionally taking up roles of cooking meals, putting the kids to bed, caring for the sick child, etc. Whilst it makes sense, today, judges are more open to the idea of granting joint custody as they believe that regular contact with both parents is highly beneficial to the children and may even grant sole custody to their dad if he can lay out a solid case why the children will be better off in his care
I cannot get a divorce because my spouse doesn’t want to sign the papers
If you really want a divorce no one, including your spouse, can force you to remain in the marriage. If they refuse to cooperate by failing to make themselves present at scheduled hearings, a contested divorce would have to be proceeded with where the judge dissolves the marriage by default whether or not your spouse agrees to it.
When you are ready to end your marriage, you should never underestimate the importance of the services of a divorce attorney in making the process run as smooth as possible. Given how complex everything can be, we at Hoyer Law understand and are more than willing to assist you with the needed expertise and trusted legal counsel. To schedule a free consultation today, contact us at www.attorneylehiutah.com or call (801) 341-8492