A Relationship is a very fragile thing working on a thread of emotions. A little mismatch for thoughts and it goes haywire. This is all the more relevant when it comes to a relationship between two people in love. The perfect communion doesn’t take time to become an imperfect association. Handy examines why people fall out of love and cheat on their significant other.
- Lack of trust – There are times when one of the partners feels that not all is well between the two because of the third person. There arises a lack of trust because of the suspicion that the other might be having an affair clandestinely. This leads to anger and dejection first and then an urge to do the same to the other, resulting in cheating and adultery. It is actually a backfire of emotions and a need to prove that the other person is not dictating the course of the relationship between them. This kind of cheating is more spontaneous than a planned one.
- Lack of communication – In the busy world of today, there is a perpetual dearth of time for your loved one. This causes a dent in the relationship as there is very little meaningful conversation between the two. A prolonged phase of solidarity in an emotional state leads to an urge to seek the company of those who are willing to listen and understand their problems. This phase of being special to someone else leads to cheating with the primary partner.
- Incompatible sexual life – Admit it or not, sex is a very important part of any relationship to remain steady or even prosper. When the partners are not satiated by one another they look for sexually compatible partners elsewhere. Physical touch, desires, and fantasies vary from person to person. A non-satisfactory sexual life with the primary partner is another reason to go astray.
- Long-distance relationship – When the two primary partners are miles away because of any reason whatsoever, a feeling of emptiness creeps in. It is the longing to meet in person and the futility of such thoughts that make the person depressed. No amount of virtual communication cannot replace being close to each other in person. A prolonged state of such a situation is often a spark that leads them to find someone who is close by. The friendship at first might lead to a relationship later, resulting in cheating with the primary partner.
- The spontaneity of action – When people are either drunk or in extreme emotional distress, they are unable to think things clearly. Falling in lust with anyone who seems available at the moment is another reason for cheating. This happens more on the spur-of-the-moment action than a contemplated one.
If the relationship is not working Handy thinks it is better to end it maturely and then go forward with the next one. After all, there is nothing more lovely than being in a charming relationship.