Have you ever seen a same-sex couple and wondered what makes them so successful? After all, they face the same daily challenges as all couples such as money, jobs, health, and society. So, then why do so many same-sex couples seem to handle obstacles in stride? Well, the answers may surprise you, especially considering the additional unique obstacles that affect gay and lesbian couples.
Here is a little insight into what makes same-sex couples so successful and what you can learn from them.
Emotions play a positive role
In general, same-sex couples often play on equal ground when it comes to emotions. So, whether in an argument, out with friends, or casually alone, same-sex couples do not often demonstrate belligerent or demeaning behaviour. There are really two things at play here. First, same-sex couples looking to embolden or uplift their partner, while also not taking negatively perceived comments personally.
This combination is a unique way of building respect in a relationship by expressing your feelings and at the same time not taking your partner’s perception personally if they don’t understand your point of view.
Same-sex couples are not afraid to express their selves
One factor which causes difficulty in male-female relationships is a lack of understanding or clarity in what will or will not negatively affect their partner. This has much to do with the fact that men and women have distinctly different hormonal and chemical reactions occurring in the body. Those differences extend to how we perceive, accept, and understand the world around us.
Same-sex couples have the distinct advantage of being able to understand what their partner is going through or how they view a perspective. So, you may understand subtle clues such as when your partner needs time alone or even why your partner needs time alone. This, in turn, helps a partner to better adjust to a situation and provide comfort and support which ultimately leads to improved trust in the relationship.
There is community
When it comes to same-sex couples one of the most important things that help to improve relationships is the lbgq+ community. Partners in a same-sex relationship often come from backgrounds with considerable loneliness. While an unfortunate aspect of society, this emotion has helped to grow and strengthen the community as a whole. As a same-sex couple, you have an entire community of people who came from similar backgrounds with similar fears and obstacles that they had to overcome. From building strength in your personal relationship to developing other life-long relationships same-sex couples have a stronger support community than ever before. For many, this means their personal relationships are much more successful than male-female relationships.
Same-sex couples aren’t afraid to explore sexually
Many same-sex couples have grown accustomed to sexual exploration. In part, this is due to people evolving from male-female relationships to same-sex relationships. Having experienced both types of relationships is often fulfilling and enlightening to what a person is truly searching for. This also means that exploration in their own relationship is frequently promoted. Something such as sexting is a great way to begin exploring what you and your partner may be interested in or to enhance your physical time together. Some sexting chat tips for beginners may be:
- Sext when the time and place are appropriate
- Use descriptive language, not necessarily vulgar
- Take it slow
- Playoff your partner’s words
- Take pictures ahead of time
Same-sex relationships are more accepted than ever before
More people have engaged in same-sex relationships than ever before. With greater acceptance of same-sex relationships in society, this has enabled the ability of choice rather than fear of confusion. Same-sex couples are more comfortable in society and in promoting their same-sex relationships. In effect, same-sex couples are able to express their relationship preference without many of the concerns they faced in the past. Sure, obstacles still exist, but in the end, a same-sex couple is more comfortable both in society, among their peers, and in their relationship.
Same-sex couples embrace identity
For many male-female relationships, personal identity can be difficult. Often, at least one person in the relationship will lose much of their personal identity to accommodate their partner. This could mean abstaining from passions or hobbies, losing close friends, and even adapting to a partner’s behaviour. This loss of identity can lead to resentment, complacency, or lack of inspiration. However, in a same-sex relationship, fundamental importance is embracing uniqueness and identity. So, when coming into a same-sex relationship it is more likely that you add to your life (friends, hobbies, beliefs), rather than lose some of your identity.
This acceptance of identity in a partner provides strength in their relationship and builds personal and relationship confidence.
What makes a same-sex relationship successful is respect for each other as well as an acceptance of personal identity. Same-sex couples embrace their partner and community, are comfortable exploring their sexuality, and are open to adding to their lives instead of acclimating their self solely into their partner’s life.